If you were to help a butterfly remove itself from its caterpillar cocoon, the butterfly would not be strong enough to survive. It is the struggle that prepares the wings to be strong enough to fly. The Lord prepares us in similar ways.
Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.
Resilience (the ability to bounce back, to see in hardship the seeds of opportunity) is developed by repeatedly exposing yourself to a range of difficult circumstances and then overcoming them.